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MORA’S ANGELS:  CHARITY HELPERS PROJECT

 

 MORA’S ANGELS, DEDICATED TO AND IN LOVING MEMORY  OF :         

   { My “Late” Sister Miss Mora Denise Tunsil: 8/9/58- 2/11/2012 }

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                             DEDICATION TO MORA

The Mora’s Angel’s Charity Project, { MORA’S ANGELS } is a “non profit” entity, that is DEDICATED to ,and named for my “Late Sister { Miss Mora Denise Tunsil } who I love and miss very much. To family and friends, she was called, Denise or “Necy”. Mora, was a Special human being, who deserves to be remembered in a special way, not only because she was my Sister but, also because she had a heart of gold.  The life she lived, in spirit, and  in reality was like the quality of fine gold also.  Mora’s easy going personality, the humorous things she would say sometimes, made her even more lovable and unforgettable.

Mora collected Angels, she had a moderately large collection of them that she kept on a particular “gold brass” wall unit, with glass shelves in the living room.  ”Necy”, took pleasure in showing them to everyone that  was interested.  Her face would light up, with a big smile, that anyone could see how proud she was of her “Angel Collection.  The Angels were all different sizes, colors and shapes, some with large wide wings, and  lighted ones.  Others, were holding a replica of the “Baby Jesus” in there arms, their wings would close around “baby Jesus, as if they were keeping him safe from harm.  That is a sample of the kind of love Mora had in her heart, not just for her Angels but, also for people as well.

 To her, love, generosity, honesty, sincerity, etc., and her love for God, was natural, it also is her legacy.  After her passing, she left these words for all who would receive it : “KNOW THE LORD AND LIVE BY HIS WORDS”, I took that seriously and I try to do that everyday.  living by God’s words, going the extra mile to make others happy, was a part of everyday life for “Necy”. 

Creating this Charity project in her name, is my way of keeping her loving spirit alive, and others like her although, I don’t know the others, and will never know them. {  I make this statement to all of you about your loved ones, “what a joy it is, that we were blessed to have had them in our lives for the time God allowed them to be with us, and to have had the pleasure of knowing them, their memories will be cherished lovingly forever. }

This Charity is being established to help other “ already established organizations” with their efforts in helping people in need, not only in this country but, Internationally.  The reason for installing this unit into the ministry, is to be a blessing to people in any way we can.  If it is a natural disaster, homelessness, sickness, financial, food, water, shelter etc., we want to help.  There are so many groups and organizations that contact many of us, and ask for help but, I’m sure you as well as I, want to help and we feel their pain but, most times we have to say “I’m sorry I can’t help at this time”, because we are in need of help ourselves.

That is why, this portion of the ministry is COMPLETELY VOLUNTARY.  I am researching to establish ways to help my readers that are in serious need, whether you have been able to give or not.  People are truly hurting in less fortunate regions of the world, but I realize that many here in the USA desperately need help also, and I WANT TO HELP EVERYONE I CAN. 

After this Charity has been completely established and is functioning successfully, instructions will be given to people ”in need” on what steps to take to make request ,and get help. As you probably already know, any donated help will have to be done on a percentage basis.  Thank you for listening, and thank you in advance for your help and participation.

Below is a list of some already established Charities that we want to give a percentage of whatever we obtain here at this Ministry, hopefully on a regular or monthly basis.  If there is a charity, Organization, etc., you would like to be considered, please specify them in our comment section, and leave “info” on how we can contact them.

     My vision, is to help as many people as possible.  I want to always tell you the truth, especially with this ministry.  I will tell you that, we here at this ministry do need financial help ourselves, which would only be a percentage for us as well.  The reason is:  It takes most of my time to continue building this site, to keep inputting material that will benefit you and your loved ones, I am retired and it is my pleasure to share my God given knowledge and experiences with you.  The time, research, meditation and work it takes to give you my best, which is my Strong Desire, unfortunately doesn’t leave much time to do anything else.

 I would like it if you would join me in making this Ministry, a Ministry Of Hope, Help, Healing, A source of “AID” be it large or small to everyone, no matter who they are or where they live.  This is my “DREAM” I hope you can make it your dream as well.

At this point “TUNSIL MINISTRIES” is still a work in progress, much, much more is coming in the near future { web design etc., a lot more articles, a variety of different kinds of information to help you in your lives, a special section to honor our “Veterans and Men At War”.}   I’m sure you will be pleased with what I’m going to be doing here, feel free   to make any suggestions, as well as comments in the comment section or send an email message to: www.tunsilministries@gmail.com.  Thank You so very much, I’m looking forward to working with you, “GOD BLESS YOU”.

HERE IS THE LIST OF ORGANIZATIONS, MENTIONED EARLIER IN THE ARTICLE ABOVE:

1.   The wounded warrior project

2.   The Red Cross

3.   Unicef

4.   Fred Jordan Mission

5.   All Children “Cancer Treatment Centers”, and other Treatment Ctr’s.

6.   Children’s International

7. Food Banks & Food  Dispensing services in Several States & Cities              Including clothing etc.

8. Homeless Shelters etc.

9. Haiti / Africa/ Asia/ Middle East/ Philippines { many more }

10. Animal Shelters, and other similar services

11. Research for cures: Diabetes, lupus, Breast Cancer, Prostate, etc.

12. Lupus cure research ( Mora died of complications from this illness }

13. Breast Cancer Research/ cures

14. Vision Research: Cures for “Coloboma Of The Optic Nerve/ All       vision disorders, and vision Birth defects.

15. Dental Services {general} And Dental Assistance For Veterans etc.

 { MANY MORE, WHICH ARE TO MANY TO LIST RIGHT NOW, SEVERAL MORE WILL BE ADDED AS WE GO AND GROW.}

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 THANK YOU, GOD BLESS YOU.  I KNOW THAT GOD WILL MULTIPLY YOUR GENEROUSITY { ONE HUNDRED FOLD } AND MANY, MANY TIMES OVER, IN JESUS NAME.

 

 


WHAT TO DO WHEN THINGS IN YOUR LIFE DON’T GO WELL ?

Problems in life :

Written By: Marilyn Adamson

What do you do when things in your life don’t go well?  Maybe it’s a health problem. Bad news.  A financial cost you weren’t expecting.

Today was kind of like that for me.  Not really even my problems.  I’m actually having sympathy pain for someone else who had a bad day.

So, how should we respond to life’s really disappointing problems?

We all have a choice to make in those moments. We can give in to fear, or worry, or anger, or self-loathing (if we ourselves caused the problem). We can spiral toward depression pretty quickly, if we want to.

Or, we can REJOICE in God, in spite of it all. Yes, REJOICE!

Paul needed to say it twice. “REJOICE in the Lord, always. Again I will say, REJOICE.” Philippians 4:4-7  (continues.)

“Let your reasonableness be known to everyone.” I read that as, “Don’t lose your head. Don’t panic,  Don’t fear or flee.  Be reasonable: Why?

“Because the Lord is at hand; do not be anxious about anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication with thanksgiving let your requests be made known to God.” These are our instructions from God.  Don’t be anxious at all, about anything Instead, ask God and Thank him.

The result? “And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus.”

So, what then should you dwell on, if not your problems?  Philippians 4 ( continues…)

“Finally, brothers, whatever is true, whatever is honorable, whatever is just, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is commendable, if there is any excellence, if there is anything worthy of praise, “THINK ABOUT THESE THINGS.”

1Chron 16:10-13

Glory in his holy name; let the hearts of those who seek the Lord REJOICE!   Seek the Lord and his strength; seek his presence continually!   Remember the wondrous works that he has done, his miracles and the judgments he uttered,  O offspring of Israel his servant, children of Jacob, his chosen ones!

Psalms 5:11-12

But let all who take refuge in you REJOICE; let them ever sing for JOY, and spread your protection over them, that those who love your name may exult in you.  For you bless the righteous, O Lord; you cover him with favor as with a shield.

Ultimately, God holds us in his hand. He is capable of redeeming a bad situation, of bringing good out of negative circumstances. HE ALWAYS WANTS US TO BE ALRIGHT.

“Cast all your anxieties on him.  For he cares for you.” 1 Peter 5:7  It’s ok to do that.  God asked you to do that!  It is his request.  Go ahead, Cast all your problems and cares to God, ALL OF THEM.

IF YOU DO THAT, YOU CAN REJOICE IN THE LORD NOW, BECAUSE THE LORD IS AT HAND.

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ADDITION:    PROBLEMS IN LIFE:

YOU SHOULD REJOICE IN THE LORD AT ALL TIMES, “THE JOY OF THE LORD IS YOUR STRENGTH” { Nehemiah 8: 10 }  NO MATTER WHAT IS HAPPENING IN YOUR LIVES GOOD, BAD, UGLY, OR DISAPPOINTING.  GOD “WILL” MAKE ALL THINGS ALRIGHT FOR YOU.  DON’T LET THE DEVIL STEAL YOUR JOY.

THE DEVIL KNOWS, IF YOU MAINTAIN YOUR JOY AND KEEP REJOICING, THAT IS A SPIRITUAL WALL, HE “CANNOT” PENETRATE.  HE WILL BE POWERLESS TO DO YOU ANY HARM, OR CAUSE INTOLERABLE PROBLEMS.   JUST KEEP HOLDING ON TO GOD’S “UNCHANGING WORDS”, IT MAY SEEM HARD SOMETIMES, BUT YOU CAN DO IT, “GOD IS THERE WITH YOU ALWAYS.”   GOD BLESS YOU.

Addition: Written By:  Edith L Tunsil , posted on 3/27/2014.

GOD’S WORDS IN THE BIBLE, HAS THE ANSWERS FOR YOUR EVERY NEED: SEEK AND YOU SHALL FIND:

How God Speaks to Us Through the Bible

 

Every word of God is flawless; He is a shield to those who take refuge in Him. (Proverbs 30:5)

by Marilyn Adamson

I am amazed at the guidance God  gives us. By learning from God’s wisdom and insight, we can live free  from many problems that others experience simply because they don’t know  His Word. It is through the Bible that we learn who God is, what He  values, how to trust Him.

I have found a wonderful way to listen to God through the Bible,  which I would like to share with you.

I get out my Bible and a sheet of lined paper (or a blank lined  journal). At the top of my page I will write down two or three sentences  describing what is on my mind. I might have a question about God, or  about how He views something, or a question about the Christian life. Or  maybe there is a situation in my life that is bothering me and I could  really use God’s insight on it. On my paper, I will write a couple of  sentences to summarize the current situation or what led to my question.

Then I ask God a question about it, and I write that down question on  my paper also.

So what I have written might look like this:

“God, I feel overwhelmed with all the work I have to do. I have  this, this and this to do; and I’m not sure I can get it all done. I’m  feeling angry about it also. Is there anything from your perspective  that you would like me to know right now?”

And then I open the very back of  the Bible where usually there is a listing of words in an index, in what  is often called a “concordance.” Does your Bible have one? This index  will list words like: “work,” “anger,” “worry,” “God’s power,” etc.  Under each word you will see a list of Scripture verses that contain  that word. The word “angry” for example might show a listing of: Mark  3:5; Mark 11:14-16; Romans 2:8; Matthew 23; etc.

[Side note: Sometimes, instead of looking in the back of my Bible, I  might search online for words/topics. I just type the  word “angry” (for example) in the "Word Search" box and it will give me a  list of verses. If I want to, I can restrict my search to New  Testament, Gospels, etc.]

Whether I have searched for the verses online or in the back of my  Bible, here is what I do next. I look up the verses in the Bible and  read each. If a verse seems to relate to my question, I write it down,  word for word, on my paper. (Yes, I do this by hand because it helps me  to notice what the verse is saying.) I’m not writing any comments about  the verse. I’m just writing the verse out. And I’ll continue copying  verses, maybe 5 verses, maybe 20 verses. After a while I may see a  pattern, an overall message through those verses (I don’t mean  mystically, I mean a knowledgeable summary of what those verses are  saying). I had asked God to teach me, and now I’m observing what He is  saying about this topic.

As an example, if I were angry at someone and had looked up a lot of  verses on anger or forgiveness or peace, I would likely find an overall,  consistent message from God. That message might be that since Jesus  paid for my sin and He doesn’t hold it against me, I too need to forgive  this person, just like He’s forgiven me.

Sometimes God will cause one  verse to really hit, where He really speaks to me in that verse. When I  come across verses that are particularly interesting I will often  “cross-reference” those. What I mean by that is, I will find other  verses that might talk about the same idea. In many study Bibles you’ll  find a listing of verses down the middle of the page, or at the bottom  of the page. These verses are like footnotes or references related to  the verses on that page. So when one verse really stands out to me, I’ll  look up those other related verses and write those out also.

I might only spend 10-15 minutes on this, or sometimes I’ve found the  time so enriching, I might spend an hour and a half on it!

Now this part is important. I am asking God to teach me. I am asking  Him to help me understand His perspective on something, because I want  to follow Him. However, as I do this, I am NOT looking for verses that I  will put into practice on my own for God. This is not a job description  that I’m going to take and implement FOR God. I am mostly focusing on  letting God speak to me in whatever way He wants, to fulfill whatever  purposes He has. I am asking Him to set His agenda, not my own. When I  know He wants me to follow something specific in His Word, then I ask  Him to work in my life and give me the strength and desire to do His  will. When I read a command such as, “Be completely humble and gentle;  be patient, bearing with one another in love,” I think, “Good idea. God,  I ask you to work in my life to make me humble, gentle and patient with  others. You know it’s not my nature to be that way with all people.  Teach me how.” In other words, I continue to trust Him, continue to rely  on Him, asking God to do in my life what He has just spoken to me  about.

If you don’t have a study Bible with a “concordance” in the back and  “cross references” on each page, you might find one very valuable, so  you can approach God’s Word in this way. Any Christian bookstore could  help you pick one out that isn’t too expensive, or you could find one at  Bibles.com.

This is a very simple way to ask God to teach you through His Word.  In summary, it is going to God with an open heart, asking Him to speak  to you about a particular topic or question. You are sharing your honest  thoughts and feelings with God. And then you are asking God to speak to  you from His perspective. Sometimes I’ll ask, “God, what is it you  would like me to know about you, as it relates to this situation? How  would you like me to trust you? What would you like to say to me?” And  then you give God time, as you write out His Word, as you look for His  overall message to you. When He teaches you, then thank Him and ask Him  to build that in your life.

KNOWING THE HOLY SPIRIT AS YOUR “COMFORTER AND GUIDE”

The Holy Spirit in Us

 

By Ney Bailey

Some of us think, “If Jesus were  here on earth, and we could see Him, we would follow Him anywhere.” But  in Ezekiel 36:26-27, the Lord says, “I will put my Spirit within you and  cause you to walk in my ways.” There is something about that word  “within.” “I will put My Spirit within you.” There was a time when I  needed to be reminded His Spirit was within me. I remember reading that,  and for days I walked around thinking, “His Spirit is within me!”  Christ is in me by His Spirit today as surely as He was with the  disciples. It is amazing to realize His Spirit lives within us and often  we don’t pay any attention to Him at all.

Where The Holy Spirit Lives

I Corinthians 3:16 says, “Do you not know your body is a temple of  the Holy Spirit.” Andrew Murray, in his book The Spirit of Christ,  elaborated on this in a way that was very helpful to me. He said in the  Jewish temple there were three courts: the outer court, the inner  court, and the Holy of holies.

Murray described how our bodies are like the outer court. The inner  court is like our mind, our will and our emotions. But inside of us is  the Holy of holies where the Spirit of God dwells. The Holy Spirit  dwells inside our spirit. So inside you and inside me is the Holy of  holies. The Holy of holies is in you. Verse 17 of that chapter says,  “The temple of God is holy, and that temple is what you are.” That will  help your self-image to know the Holy of holies is in you and in me.

How then do we keep our temples cleansed? Once we’ve accepted Christ  the blood of Christ cleanses us. How then do we keep our temples  cleansed? By faith. By taking God at His word.

1 John 1:9 is a verse I like to call “the Christian’s bar of soap.”  It says, “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and just to forgive us  our sins and cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”

The last time you washed your hands when they were really dirty, did  you stand over the sink and say, “Where did the dirt go, I’m so worried  about it?” No you didn’t. You accepted by faith that the dirt went down  the drain. You never thought about it. That is what we need to do. If we  confess our sins, He is faithful; He is just to forgive our sins and to  cleanse us from all unrighteousness. We need to believe He has  forgiven us even if we don’t see or feel it.

The Holy Spirit always points us  to Christ. He always points us to forgiveness, to the cross and to the  blood of Christ. He always points us to no condemnation. Why? Because  Romans 8:1 says, “There is therefore now no condemnation for those who  are in Christ Jesus.”

But what does Satan do? He wants to rob you of the peace God says is  yours. Satan tries to make you look back and think about your own worst  sin. You think about those things and they go across your mind like a  video. What we need to do is bring those sins under the cross and say,  “Lord Jesus this just proves that I need a Savior. Lord, thank you that  the blood of Jesus Christ cleanses me from all sin.” Think about your  sins through the cross and through the blood of Christ, and you will  have God’s peace. Don’t review old sins. Believe God’s forgiveness.

The Holy Spirit Speaking to Us

Now, what about current sins, sins that God may be bringing to your  attention?

The way the Lord gets through to me, more than any other way, is  through my relationships. I had a relationship in my life that had  plagued me for years. I had such a hard time with this person that I  thought, “If you are going to be in heaven I don’t even want to go  there.” I was pointing my finger at this person. I was critical. I was  judgmental. I was finding fault. I had nothing good to say about them.  And the whole time, I was justifying myself.

Then one day the Lord pointed me to Luke 18:9, “And He also told this  parable to certain ones who trusted in themselves that they were  righteous and viewed others with contempt.” I realized I was viewing  this other person with contempt. This is the parable Jesus told:

“Two men went up into the temple to pray, one a Pharisee  (self-righteous, arrogant religious leaders in Jesus’ day) and the other  a tax collector (often corrupt, over-taxing people, hated by most.) The  Pharisee stood and was praying this to himself, ‘God I thank You that I  am not like other people: swindlers, unjust, adulterers or even like  this tax collector. I fast twice a week, I pay tithes of all that I  get.’ But the tax collector, standing some distance away, was even  unwilling to lift up his eyes to heaven, but was beating his breast  saying, ‘God be merciful to me, the sinner.’”

Jesus explained the parable saying, “I tell you this man (the man who  said ‘God be merciful to me the sinner’) went down to his house  justified rather than the other, for everyone who exalts himself shall  be humbled, but he who humbles himself shall be exalted.”

When I read this I said, “O Lord, I’m being like the Pharisees. I  hate this. I’m viewing this person with contempt.” I realized that I  needed to look at my own heart. As I began to look at my own heart, I  saw jealousy, lack of love, pride, anger, judging, pointing my finger. I  then looked at Galatians 5:16-23. “But I say walk by the Spirit and you  will not carry out the desire of the flesh…The fruit (or deeds) of  the flesh are evident which are immorality, impurity, sensuality,  idolatry, sorcery, hatred, strife, outburst of anger, jealousy,  disputes, dissensions, factions, envying, drunkenness, carousing, and  things like these…But the fruit of the Spirit is love, joy, peace,  patience, kindness, goodness, faithfulness, gentleness, self control,  against such things there is no law.”

Sometimes we look at the sin list and we say, “Well I don’t find  myself in there anywhere.” But do you know what we fail to do? We fail  to look at ourselves in the fruit of the Spirit list and say, “How  loving am I being? How kind am I being? How faithful am I being? How  gentle am I being?” We tend to measure ourselves by the sins instead of  measuring ourselves by the fruit of the Spirit.

Andrew Murray said, “Why is it that we find Christians who are holy  and harsh?” He goes on to say, “Because they know nothing of the Spirit  of love. Only the Holy Spirit can produce his love.”

As I thought about the person who had hurt me, I was reminded of a  verse in 1 Peter 3:8,9: “To sum up, let all be harmonious, sympathetic,  brotherly, kind hearted and humble in spirit, not returning evil for  evil, or insult for insult.”

I felt this person had done evil things to me, had done insulting  things to me. But after it says, “not returning evil for evil, or insult  for insult,” it says, “but giving a blessing instead, for you were  called for the very purpose that you might inherit a blessing.”

As I looked at what I saw in my own heart and confessed that I was  like a Pharisee and I prayed, “Lord, be merciful to me a sinner. Lord,  would you please show me how to give a blessing to this person?” I was  in England at the time, and in one of the bookstores I remember seeing a  rather expensive book that I knew he would really like. The next time I  came back to America, I gave that book to him. I cannot tell you how  deeply touched he was. It meant the world to him and I think God used it  in a powerful way.

The Holy Spirit will always be faithful to show us where we are not  like Christ. He was faithful to show me where I wasn’t like Christ. As  we read God’s Word and ask the Holy Spirit to lead us in ways that are  pleasing to him, he will produce in our lives the fruit of the Spirit:  “love, joy, peace, patience, kindness, goodness, gentleness and self  control.”

Jesus said, “As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you; abide  in my love…These things I have spoken to you, that my joy may be in  you, and that your joy may be full.” (John 15:9,11)

DEFEAT TEMPTATION:

Many, struggle with temptation just as you do. Overcoming it is hard; it’s a constant battle. But whether I succeed or fail, God still loves me. When I forget that amazing fact, overcoming temptation is harder and often impossible.

I’m thankful that God promises forgiveness and that His grace and power are always available and sufficient to enable me–and you–to stand against the temptations we face every day.

The Scripture is replete with instruction on the subject of temptation. Jesus said “temptations to sin are sure to come” (Luke 17:1). But Jesus said that when we pray we should ask God to “lead us not into temptation” (Matthew 6:13). The Apostle Paul was embarrassingly clear about his own struggle when he wrote, “So I find it to be a law that when I want to do right, evil lies close at hand. For I delight in the law of God, in my inner being, but I see in my members another law waging war against the law of my mind and making me captive to the law of sin that dwells in my members” (Romans 7:21-23).

We should understand that the process that leads to sin is progressive. James 1:13-15 describes the progression this way: “Let no one say when he is tempted, ‘I am being tempted by God,’ for God cannot be tempted with evil, and he himself tempts no one. But each person is tempted when he is lured and enticed by his own desire. Then desire when it has conceived gives birth to sin, and sin when it is fully grown brings forth death.”

It could be likened to a person driving by a bank and first wondering what it would be like to rob it. Next, the person imagines it would be very easy to hold up that bank because it doesn’t have many alert guards or smart tellers. Then, the person delights in all of the money that he or she would get if he should rob that bank. Finally, he commits the act by storming up to the teller and demanding, “Stick ‘em up!”

Always remember that God is aware of the temptations you face. Not only that, He is compassionate about your struggle with sin.

One of the most amazing and wonderful statements in the Bible is Hebrews 2:17-18: “Therefore he [that would be Jesus] had to be made like his brothers [that would be us] in every respect, so that he might become a merciful and faithful high priest in the service of God, to make propitiation for the sins of the people. For because he himself has suffered when tempted, he is able to help those who are being tempted.”

And just to make sure that we understood, the writer repeated the truth in Hebrews 4:15-16, “For we do not have a high priest who is unable to sympathize with our weaknesses, but one who in every respect has been tempted as we are, yet without sin. Let us then with confidence draw near to the throne of grace, that we may receive mercy and find grace to help in time of need.”

Anyone who has tried to be good, pure, righteous and loving in his or her own strength knows that it can’t be done. But, through the Holy Spirit, God is making you like Jesus, and what God begins He always completes. The Bible says, “And I am sure of this, that he who began a good work in you will bring it to completion at the day of Jesus Christ” (Philippians 1:6). And Paul made a statement of fact about us that provides comfort: “I have been crucified with Christ. It is no longer I who live, but Christ who lives in me” (Galatians 2:20).

When you are aware of sin in your life, don’t assume your struggle is over. The battle has just begun. Ask Christ not only to make you aware of temptation, but also to empower you by His grace and strength to overcome it. The Bible says, “No temptation has overtaken you that is not common to man. God is faithful, and he will not let you be tempted beyond your ability, but with the temptation he will also provide the way of escape, that you may be able to endure it” (1 Corinthians 10:13).

It’s also vitally important that Christians remember that Satan, our enemy, is a defeated foe (Colossians 2:15 and Revelation 20:10). We are playing in a ball game whose outcome has been determined, a contest that’s already been decided! The victory has already been won. Satan will come out on the short end of the stick. You can count on it because on the cross of Christ, Satan’s end was secured. You and I have access to One who understands and who can do battle with the enemy and win. So avail yourself of that access.

When temptation comes, the Christian’s prayer should always be: “Father, I don’t understand the power that is against me for evil, but You do, and You have promised help. I now claim the victory that You have already won for me on the cross.” As you encounter temptation, get on your knees and pray.

In the sixth chapter of Ephesians, Paul gives the Christian a list of weapons he will need when doing battle with Satan. When Paul is talking about how a Christian ought to resist Satan, he says, “Stand therefore, having fastened on the belt of truth, and having put on the breastplate of righteousness, and, as shoes for your feet, having put on the readiness given by the gospel of peace. In all circumstances take up the shield of faith, with which you can extinguish all the flaming darts of the evil one; and take the helmet of salvation, and the sword of the Spirit, which is the word of God” (Ephesians 6:14-17). In other words, Paul is saying that there is a way to counter lies and that is with God’s truth.

There is no substitute for the truth, and there is no truth more useful to the Christian in his battle with Satan than the truth of Scripture. Just as Jesus quoted Scripture when Satan tempted Him, I, too, quote God’s Word when I think that the temptations I face will be so strong that I will not be able to overcome them.

In my battle with Satan, no matter how strong he seems, I will remember: “He [God] disarmed the rulers and authorities and put them to open shame, by triumphing over them in him [Christ]” (Colossians 2:15). That’s a fact, and I will stand on it! ©2011 Stephen W. Brown

Steve Brown, founder and President of Key Life Network, is an author, radio broadcaster and seminary professor.

Scripture quotations are taken from The Holy Bible, English Standard Version, ©2001 by Crossway Bibles, a division of Good News Publishers.

Finances & Your Relationship with God

by Larry Burkett

President of Christian Financial Concepts


Without a doubt, there is a great need in Christianity to get back to the basics of God’s Word. This is true whether we’re talking about salvation, sanctification, service, or finances.

In reality, we have only one purpose for anything we do in this lifetime: to glorify God. If our day-to-day lives don’t reflect that service, then we’re not serving God.

There is a great deal of false service by many who profess to serve God but actually want God to serve them. They will give, but they always expect to be repaid. They will help the needy, but it’s to keep God from allowing some tragedy to befall them. The list could go on and on and would eventually touch every one of us. Why? Because I believe so few really understand the function that finances play in our spiritual lives.

The financial principles given throughout God’s Word are not there to see if we’re strong enough to live by them; they’re given because God knows that they are the best for us. God’s principles of finances are not an arbitrary set of rules by which to govern us; they are a loving Father’s wisdom to those who will listen and trust Him.

The problem is that we get so caught up in the material world around us that we follow its “wisdom.” If we listened to the world’s wisdom about morals or even about God, where would we be? Why then do so many Christians assume the world’s values about money? Probably because the world seems to be good at making money. But when any thinking person, Christian or not, examines where we are today financially, he or she has to doubt that this world really has wisdom.

We have built an affluent society based on a “sand” foundation of future debt. All that we have is in danger of being wiped out by any financial crisis, even a relatively minor one. Not so with those who observe and obey God’s financial wisdom. God’s financial wisdom builds to last, not to impress others.

Why Did Christ Teach on Finances?

It surprises many Christians to learn that approximately two-thirds of the parables that Christ used in teaching deal specifically with finances. The reason for this is very simple: He chose a topic with which everyone could identify to use as an example. After all, a parable is a form of teaching in which a well-known topic is used to explain a relatively unknown topic.

Christ was describing a spiritual kingdom that is actually more real (and older) than this material kingdom. But in order to relate to worldly people, He had to use a worldly example: money.

Christ never said money or material things were problems. He said that they were symptoms of the real problems. He constantly warned us to guard our hearts against greed, covetousness, ego, and pride, because these are the tools that Satan uses to control and manipulate this world.

Christ warned us a great deal more about materialism than He did any other sin. “He said to them, ‘Beware, and be on your guard against every form of greed; for not even when one has an abundance does his life consist of his possessions’” (Luke 12:15). In fact, in the parable about salvation in Matthew 13:18-23, “the deceitfulness of riches” is given as a cause for unfruitfulness (verse 22).

Satan has taken the very riches provided by God to enhance our lives and bring others to salvation and has diverted them for his use. Today, even Christians evaluate (or value) others on the basis of how much they have and how successful they are in worldly terms.

The poor are thought to be losers-less spiritual than the winners. If an affluent Christian family has a child who chooses mission work as a life’s vocation, family members try to talk the child out of it, because it pays so poorly. We say we want the “best” for our children, and yet too often the best is measured by temporal values, rather than eternal values.

Is It Wrong to Be Rich?

“Rich” is a very subjective term, but here it’s used in context with having enough money to meet all of your reasonable needs and still have funds left over. Clearly, God’s Word teaches that many of His people will fit into this category. They not only will be able to meet their needs, but they also will be able to help others who have needs. The entire 25th chapter of Matthew’s gospel is dedicated to teaching the management and distribution of a surplus.

Obviously, in God’s economy, He must either provide a material surplus to some Christians to meet the needs of others, or He must provide manna from Heaven. God’s plan is clearly stated in 2 Corinthians 8:14-15: that our abundance at the present time will meet the needs of others, and later their abundance will meet our needs (a good alternative to welfare within the church).

Christ warned those who are rich to always be on their guard (Luke 12:15-21). There is a great temptation to trust in the security that a surplus can provide. The greater the surplus, the greater the temptation. That’s why those who are rich (most of American Christianity) must guard their hearts and minds with the principles from God’s Word.

Finances: Our Spiritual Barometer

A definition of “faith,” according to Hebrews 11, is trusting God totally. It means trusting God for things you cannot see or manipulate into happening. Most of us truly desire to be able to exercise this faith. But the world around us tells us to do just the opposite. If you don’t have the money for what you “need,” borrow to get it. If it’s too expensive for your income, so what? You deserve it; besides, you have to stretch yourself if you want to be successful in this world.

God’s Word tells us to learn to be content and dedicate ourselves to serving God. In Hebrews 12:1 we are told, “Let us also lay aside every encumbrance, and the sin which so easily entangles us, and let us run with endurance the race that is set before us.” Instead, we encumber ourselves by following the worldly advice that says bigger and more are better. Just about the time most of our children are grown and leaving home, we can “afford” a big home and more cars, so we expand our lifestyles rather than simplify them.

The worst sign of worldly values in Christianity is the love of money that is apparent today. This is manifested in fear of the future. This fear dominates the attitudes of most believers today. The evidence of this is the mania over guaranteed incomes and retirement plans.

Neither of these is necessarily wrong in itself. Obviously, most Christians would like a steady income to provide for their family’s needs, and that’s not unscriptural, except when they compromise God’s Word for fear of losing their tenure in an education job, or when they fear speaking out against obvious sin. The examples are abundant today in government, medicine, law, sales, or other areas.

Retirement planning so dominates the thinking of Christians who have sizeable incomes that they overkill this area enormously. The fear of doing without in the future causes many Christians to rob God’s work of the very funds He has provided. These monies are tucked away in retirement accounts for 20 to 40 years. God’s Word does not prohibit but, rather, encourages saving for the future, including retirement (see Proverbs 6:6-11, 21:20), but the example of the rich fool, given by the Lord in Luke 12:16-20, should be a clear direction that God’s balance is “when in doubt, give-don’t hoard.”

The Greatest Need

The greatest need in our generation is for God’s Word to be taught clearly and undiluted. The next greatest need is for Christians who will demonstrate that it works.

In Romans 10:14, we are told that for the unsaved to believe, someone must tell them about Jesus. The book of James tells us that we are the walking, talking evidence before the unsaved world that God’s Word is true.

As I think about our witness before the unsaved, it would appear to be evident that in our most visible area, finances, we don’t have much of a witness. In great part, this is because Christians just haven’t been taught what God’s Word says. A few examples from the Word should clearly point this out.

Borrowing: We are told to borrow very modestly and cautiously, always repaying what is owed (Psalm 37:21; Proverbs 3:27-28).

Lending: Christians are to lend to one another without interest and are not to engage in lawsuits to recover losses (Deuteronomy 23:19-20; 1 Corinthians 6:1-7).

Sharing: Christians should provide for every legitimate need within their own fellowships. This would include funds for illnesses, unemployment, or old age (2 Corinthians 8:14-15).

What Should We Do?

As a teacher, I would be negligent if I concluded this study of how finances reflect our faith without pointing out some simple steps to start applying God’s wisdom.

First: Study the available materials on God’s principles for managing finances. You could glean all of the principles out of the Bible yourself, and many Christians have. However, an organized study can reduce the time involved and give additional insights from others who have applied the principles.

Second: Apply godly discipline to your lifestyle. It’s clear that God doesn’t demand the same lifestyle for any two families. Each of us is to witness to those whom God has placed around us. So there will be Christians at every level of income and society. But God’s Word makes it very clear that lavishness and waste are worldly, not godly, values. Each Christian family must look at their spending habits, and particularly their waste, and give an account for their stewardship to God.

Third: Teach your children God’s principles. The toll that worldly financial values place on young families today is enormous. More than one-half of their marriages will fail because of unnecessary financial pressures. The vast majority could be avoided or salvaged if they are taught (early) how to anticipate and avoid these problems. When a young couple wants to develop a budget prior to marriage, I work with them and monitor the budget for the first year, and the financial problems are reduced dramatically. Christian parents should never let their children leave home without equipping them with the fundamental knowledge of finances that they will need to survive in a materialistically insane society.

Fourth: Teach your neighbors. There are now several hundred Christian couples who regularly teach courses on God’s principles of finances and basic budgeting in homes and churches around the country. Those who feared they would meet with indifference or disinterest found themselves swamped with requests for counseling and advice. Millions of people are hurting and don’t know where to go for help. They will respond, not only to the financial advice, but also to the Gospel message that always must go with it.

This article was originally published in the Feb, 1999 News Journal.

Re-Posted By:  Edith L Tunsil, 12/7/2014.

 

 

Amazing Grace

by Joyce Meyer

Grace really is amazing.

If you’ve been a Christian for any amount of time, chances are you have struggled with frustrating habits or been disappointed by failures or just couldn’t do “it” (whatever your “it” is). But once you have a revelation of God’s grace in your life, you’ll know just how amazing it is!

Well, what is grace?

I’m glad you asked. But first, think of a problem you’re having in your life right now—a bad habit, conflict in a relationship, a particularly long and difficult period of testing. Now I want to ask you: Have you been trying to make things work out? If so, have they…or are you discouraged, disappointed, or frustrated?

If your answer is yes, then you are in the best place to realize just how amazing God’s grace really is! You see, grace is the power to overcome bad habits, to make peace in a relationship, or to bring you victoriously through a time of testing—without all your trying. That’s because it is God’s power, not ours, that overcomes our evil tendencies.

All that our trying has ever done, or will ever really do, is cause frustration. We can never make ourselves better by trying…praying more or longer, studying more of the Word, performing good works, etc. Don’t get me wrong…it’s not bad to do any of these things. In fact, it’s good. It’s just that doing them in God’s power is the only way those things will have any real and lasting effect in our lives.

The interesting thing about trying is that it’s not scriptural. Yes, the word is in the Bible. But, it’s not there telling us to try to do better or be better. If you look it up, you’ll see that when that word is used, it’s in reference to the “trying” of our faith, “trying” the spirits, or “trying” us to prove our character. All our trying, or human effort, is really just works of the flesh that can never bring about the change in us that only God’s power, or grace, can.

It’s certainly not wrong to want to be a better person. God gave us that desire. But according to Galatians 3:10, …anyone who tries to live by his own effort, independent of God, is doomed to failure (MSG). That’s why so much of the time we will find ourselves frustrated, disappointed and overwhelmed by the “stuff” in our lives. We try to work it out on our own. And that will never do.

Choose His Help

God wants to help us…He loves us…we are His children. But He will not force His help on us at any time. He sees us when we struggle and fight and complain our way through things. And I believe it breaks His heart, when all we have to do is ask Him for help.

God taught me this truth in a way I’ll never forget. My husband, Dave, is tall. I’m not so tall. We have a really high window over the kitchen sink in our house. When that window is open, there’s no way for me to close it without a big ordeal. But how do you think it would make Dave feel if I ran out of the house to go ask the man next door to come and close that window for me? Or what if I tried to do it myself, straining and stretching, maybe climbing up on the counter, possibly knocking things over, getting all worn-out…while Dave was sitting right there? That would really be insulting to him. In the same way, it grieves God to watch us struggle so needlessly, when all the while, He is right there waiting for us to simply exchange trying for trusting.

His grace is the power for living an abundant life. Our faith receives, not “buys,” the blessings of God. Striving, struggling, trying can never do that. Ephesians 2:8-9 tells us that it is by grace you have been saved, through faith—and this is not from yourselves, it is the gift of God—not by works, so that no one can boast (NIV).

So in the same way we became born again, we live in the Spirit—by God’s grace, through faith. It’s simple. Humble yourself. Ask God for His help. Then, do what He says. Trust in His power—He is mighty to do whatever we need Him to do and to help us do our part. Trust in His wisdom—He knows what, when and how to do it.

Trust in His goodness—He wants to do it.

Now, isn’t that amazing?

CONTROLLING ANGER AND YOUR TEMPER GOD’S WAY PARTS: I, II, III :

Anger and loss of temper are problems that all people face at times. With some the problems are habitual. Is it always sinful to be angry? What does the Bible say about anger, wrath, blowing up, and clamming up? Should we vent our feelings to “get it out of our system”? Can we control our tempers? What guidance does God’s word give in overcoming the temptations of anger?

 

The purpose of this lesson is to study the Bible teaching about anger.

All of us have problems controlling our temper at times. Some of us have habitual problems.

Let us consider what the Bible says. Is all anger necessarily sinful? Can we control our tempers? What does Jesus offer to help up overcome the habit of losing our temper?

[I have been benefited in this study by counseling materials written by Jay Adams.]


I. The Relationship between Anger and Sin


What is the problem with anger? What is the danger?

A. Bible Examples of Acceptable Anger

Some people assume that Christians should never show signs of a temper. If a Christian raises his voice or becomes visibly upset, some people think or act as though he violated his duty as a Christian. Consider:

God is angry with sin.

Psalm 7:11 – Because He is a just God, God is angry with sinners every day. Surely God’s anger is not wrong. It is proper, for it is even based on His justice.

Many other passages show that God is angry when people commit sin. He will punish sinners in wrath. If God is infinitely righteous yet is often angry, why should we conclude that people are always wrong when they are angry?

[Romans 1:18; 2:5-9; 5:6-11; Ephesians 5:6; Colossians 3:6; John 3:36; etc.]

Moses was angry with sin.

The Bible says Moses was more meek than anyone else on earth (Num. 12:3), yet several times he acted and spoke in great anger.

Exodus 11:4-8 – Moses predicted that God would destroy the firstborn in all Egypt. Moses was acting as God’s spokesman, yet he spoke “in great anger” (v8).

Exodus 32:19-24 – While Moses was on Mt. Sinai receiving the law, Israel worshiped a golden calf. When he saw this, “Moses’ anger became hot” (v19), so much so that other people could see that he was angry (v22). He spoke and he punished the people in anger (cf. vv 25-29).

Numbers 16:15 – When Korah, Dathan, and Abiram led a rebellion against Moses’ leadership, “Moses was very angry.” He spoke in anger (vv 16ff), and even prayed to God in anger.

Jesus was angry with sin.

Mark 3:5 – When Jews condemned Jesus for healing on the sabbath, He looked on them in anger, being grieved at their hardness of heart. Jesus became angry and spoke in anger, even when teaching. Did He sin (Heb. 4:15)?

Other examples of acceptable anger

2 Corinthians 7:11 – In obedience to Paul’s inspired teaching (1 Cor. 5), Corinth had disciplined a fornicator. Paul praised them for their “indignation.” Note that a whole congregation acted in indignation, even disciplined a member in indignation, and were praised for doing so!

Ephesians 4:26 – Be angry, and do not sin. Can we obey this passage? If so, then it is possible to be angry without sinning.

Not everyone who is angry has automatically done wrong. Some anger is justified. But note that every case listed above involves being angry at sin. Sin ought to anger Christians, but we must control our response.

Take care lest you conclude that people have sinned, simply because they became angry. Not all anger is sinful.

[Psalms 119:53; Gen. 31:31; Psalm 2:12; Nehemiah 5:6,7; Mark 10:14 - ASV]

B. The Danger of Anger

James 1:19,20 – Be slow to wrath, because the wrath of man does not produce the righteousness of God. Again, not all anger is forbidden. It does not say to never be angry but to be slow to anger. The problem with anger is what it “produces” or leads to.

Proverbs 14:17 – A quick-tempered man acts foolishly. Not all anger is sinful, but we must take care lest we “fly off the handle,” lose control, and act wrongly. [Prov. 29:22]

Anger can cause us to sin in two different ways:

Anger can cause us to “blow up.”

Some psychologists encourage people to “vent” their anger. If husbands or wives become angry, they are supposed to say whatever they think, because it “gets it out of the system” or “releases tension.” They tell us to allow even little children to throw tantrums, scream, and call parents nasty names.

Proverbs 29:11,20

A fool vents all his feelings, but a wise man holds them back. Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

The problem with anger is that it may lead us to lose control of our conduct and lash out at others with foolish words or deeds that are intended to hurt others and may be regretted later. By contrast, a wise man will control himself, even when he is angry.

The Bible teaches that our words and deeds are controlled by our thoughts. We must learn to control our thoughts and emotions, because harboring sinful thoughts will lead to sinful conduct. [Prov. 4:23; Matt. 15:18ff]

Ephesians 4:31,32

Not all anger is sinful (v26), but we should put away anger that is associated with bitterness, clamor (“loud quarreling” – NKJV ftnt), evil speaking, and malice. It is the opposite of kindness, tenderheartedness, and forgiveness (v32).

Anger is sinful when it leads us to lose control so that, instead of being helpful to others, we become abusive, saying evil or hateful things intended to hurt them. Or we may simply not care about how we affect them. [Col. 3:8ff; 2 Cor. 12:20]

Genesis 4:4-8

Cain is an example. When God rejected Cain’s offering but accepted Abel’s, Cain became angry and killed Abel.

Cain’s anger was wrong, first because Abel had done nothing wrong. Anger at sin may be justified, but Cain was angry at someone who was righteous. Cain was the one who did wrong and was upset because God did not accept his conduct. Second, his anger was wrong because it led him to harm his brother.

[Prov. 19:11; Rom. 12:17-21' Acts 7:54-60; 19:28; James 3:9-12; 1 Peter 3:9; Matt. 7:12]

Anger can cause us to “clam up.”

Ephesians 4:31,32 – Anger and wrath should be “put away” from us, along with bitterness and malice. But instead of putting away their anger, some people just put it inside: they let it build up bitterness and grudges. They may not say anything, but their hearts are full of malice and a desire to hurt others.

Ephesians 4:26 – Do not let the sun go down on your wrath. Instead of letting anger build up, we should get rid of it. One who “clams up” violates this part of the passage. He may not lash out to hurt others, but neither does he work constructively to eliminate the cause of his anger. He just lets it build up.

James 1:19 – Let every man be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. Note that it says be slow to wrath and slow to speak, not “refuse” to speak.

Leviticus 19:17,18 – Hating our brother and holding a grudge against him in our heart violates the law of loving our neighbor as ourselves (which is also a New Testament law). To avoid this, rebuke him: talk to him about his wrong.

Some view clamming up as the only solution to blowing up. You don’t say or do anything harmful (at the time), but you hold bitterness in your heart, plotting harmful things to say and do! Both responses violate the pattern.

In fact clamming up is often what leads to blowing up! The pressure builds till finally we lash out with cruelty and malice. When we learn to deal with anger properly, we can avoid both clamming up and blowing up.

Note that both kinds of anger tend to become habit. We practice them so often that they become ingrained in our character and very difficult to overcome. This leads to our next point.

[Matt. 5:21-24; 1 Cor. 13:5]

II. Ability to Control Anger


Anger can be controlled. Jesus was angry at times and was tempted in all points like we are, but He did not sin (Heb. 4:15). He controlled His anger, and we can control ours. The examples of Moses and others who were angry without sinning show that anger can be controlled.

A. God Commands Us to Control Our Anger.

Many passages command this.

Ephesians 4:26 – Be angry and sin not.

Proverbs 29:11 – A fool vents his feelings, but a wise man holds them back. We should not clam up, refusing to say what needs to be said, but we should control our anger: hold it back.

Proverbs 16:32; 25:28 – He who is slow to anger and rules his spirit is better than one who captures a city. You can restrain your spirit, and God commands you to do so.

Many other passages refer to this as “self control,” an essential characteristic of Christians. Every passage that commands self control is a passage that tells us we can and should control our tempers (1 Corinthians 9:25-27; 2 Peter 1:5-8; Galatians 5:22,23).

[Gal. 5:20,23; 2 Tim. 1:7; Psalm 37:8; Prov. 14:29]

We can accomplish whatever God commands us to do.

God does not command the impossible.

1 Corinthians 10:13 – We do not face any temptation that is beyond our ability to handle, including the temptation to lose our temper. God will make a way of escape.

There is never an excuse for disobeying God. To say we cannot control our temper is to say God is not faithful. What we need to do is to look for the way of escape.

There is no excuse for failing to control our temper. God requires it and will judge us for it.

[Philippians 4:13; Psalm 37:5; Eph. 6:10-18; 3:20,21; 2 Cor. 9:8; Josh. 1:5-9.]

B. Experience Shows We Can Control Our Temper.

All of us do control our tempers, when it is important enough to do so.

Consider a mother who has a terrible day. The washer leaks on the floor, kids fight, supper burns, she breaks her favorite bowl, kids track mud on her clean floor. So she explodes, screams at the kids and threatens them. Then the phone rings and it’s her husband’s boss. Suddenly she is quite capable of carrying on a polite conversation.

Dad works on the car. The dealer gives him a wrong part, it won’t go together right, then it won’t run, and a wrench slips and splits his knuckle. He’s screaming and using profanity. Then a car pulls in the driveway; it’s the preacher’s wife come for a visit. Suddenly he is calm and polite.

We can control our anger, when we really want to. If we can control our temper for the sake of other people, why not do it for God? God sees everything we do. Is God important enough to control our anger for?

III. Bible Principles to Help You Control Your Anger


A. Study the Scriptures and Develop a Plan.

Psalms 119:105 – Your word is a lamp to my feet and a light to my path. Surely God’s word will instruct us how to overcome anger.

Matthew 4:1-11 – Jesus dealt with Satan’s temptations by quoting Scripture. Surely this approach can help us overcome the temptation of anger.

Make a list of passages about anger, then study and memorize them. When tempted to lose our temper, quote or read them.

Then, based on those Scriptures, develop a plan of action. This would include some or all of the points below.

[Joshua 1:8; Deuteronomy 6:6-9; Proverbs 3:5,6; 2 Timothy 3:16,17; Ephesians 6:17; Romans 1:16; Hebrews 4:12]

B. Repent and Pray.

A person who is not a Christian must repent and be baptized for remission of sins (Acts 2:38; 22:16; Mark 16:15,16; Romans 6:3,4; 1 Peter 3:21).

But a child of God who sins, whether loss of temper or any other sin, must confess the sin and ask God’s forgiveness.

Acts 8:22 – To be forgiven, we must repent and pray for forgiveness. Some want to remove their problem without admitting it exists. God says confess it and make up your mind to change.

1 Peter 5:7 – Casting all your care upon Him, for He cares for you. We should pray, not just for forgiveness, but for strength to overcome temptation. We should ask God’s help especially when facing temptation.

Luke 6:27,28 – Pray for those who spitefully use us. That includes those who anger us. Praying for others helps us overcome our bitterness and develop an attitude of good will.

However, some will admit they have a problem and may even apologize, but then take no steps to change. Still more is needed.

[Proverbs 28:13; 1 John 1:8-10; Matthew 6:13]

C. Discuss the Problem with Other Christians.

James 5:16 – Confess your trespasses to one another, and pray for one another, that you may be healed. The effective, fervent prayer of a righteous man avails much.

We may also ask advice from others in overcoming the problem. Often others have had the same problem. They can help bear our burden (Gal. 6:2; 1 Thess. 5:14).

D. Avoid Hot-Tempered People.

Proverbs 22:24,25 – Make no friendship with an angry man, And with a furious man do not go, lest you learn his ways and set a snare for your soul. If you associate with people who regularly lose their temper, you become that kind of person. This is especially dangerous, if you already have the problem.

Associating with people who practice sin tempts you to participate. Associating with those who have overcome the problem helps you overcome it.

[Matthew 6:13; Romans 13:14; 1 Corinthians 15:33; 1 Peter 4:3,4; Proverbs 13:20; Exodus 23:2; Psalm 26:5; 2 Corinthians 6:14-18; Ephesians 5:11]

E. Think before You Speak or Act.

James 1:19 – Be slow to speak, slow to wrath.

Proverbs 29:20 – Do you see a man hasty in his words? There is more hope for a fool than for him.

Proverbs 15:28 – The heart of the righteous studies how to answer, but the mouth of the wicked pours forth evil. Don’t clam up, but don’t just pop off whatever comes to mind. Give an answer, but study on it first.

Force yourself to analyze the situation and consider the consequences of what you might say or do. “If I say or do this, will it be good for others, or am I just angry and will regret the statement later?” Count to ten. Maybe take a walk or ask for time to calm down and think. But instead of clamming up, set an appointment: a specific time to discuss the problem later.

Proverbs 15:1 – A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger. Note it does not say clam up and give no answer. Give an answer, but make it calm.

Being calm does not mean we must never speak in a way that expresses anger by tone or volume. The examples we already learned show that such anger is not necessarily wrong. But don’t speak to hurt, get even, or antagonize. Be sure you are calm enough to say what is helpful. And if the other person loses control, then you speak in a way that shows you are under control.

This turns away wrath: not just the other person’s wrath, but your wrath too! When one person gets angry and says something mean, the other tends to respond with something meaner. Then the first must top that, etc. To break the cycle, instead of attacking the other person, calmly say something to help him, not hurt him.

F. Work to Solve the Problem that Angered You.

This may seem obvious, but most angry people do the opposite. We may say we are trying to solve the problem, but really we are trying to hurt the person who angered us. Instead of attacking the problem, we attack the person.

First determine exactly what happened that angered you.

The issue is not who angered you, but what happened to anger you. Learn to distinguish the act from the person. Hate the sin, but love the sinner. Striking out to hurt the person will not solve the problem. Seek to destroy the bad conduct, while helping the person who committed it.

Note: some problems are not worth being angry over. Learn to distinguish serious problems from imaginary or unimportant ones. If the problem is not worth working on, it isn’t worth being angry over. Forget it and go on. If it’s important enough to make you justifiably angry, then use your anger to work on the problem.

Use your energy constructively to solve the problem.

Anger is a natural reaction intended to prepare the body for action. The question is: what action is proper?

* Blowing up and attacking the person who angered you is the wrong action.

* Blowing up and attacking an innocent bystander (yelling at your wife or kids because the boss chewed you out) is worse.

* Holding a grudge (clamming up the anger inside yourself) does not solve the problem.

* The only proper way to “be angry and sin not” is to use your natural energy to work on the problem.

Go talk to the person who caused the problem for the purpose of working out a solution.

Matthew 5:22-24; (Luke 17:3,4) – Being angry without cause is not right; neither is saying cruel, hurtful things. If you have something against someone, or if they have something against you, either way go talk. But talk for the purpose of being reconciled. [Matt. 18:15-17]

Ephesians 4:26 – Don’t let the sun go down on your wrath. Don’t just seethe inside without working on the problem itself. Go work on the problem. This applies on the job, in the church, and in the home.

Speak with genuine concern for others.

Ephesians 4:26,29 – Be angry, but sin not. Speak what is good for necessary edification.

(1) Say what is necessary.

Don’t say just whatever comes to mind or whatever you feel like saying. Don’t drag out all the old wrongs that were supposedly resolved long ago. Don’t just talk on and on and on. Use “no corrupt communication” – no profanity, etc. Say what is needed to solve the problem. If it won’t help solve the problem, don’t say it!

(2) Say what is good and edifies and imparts grace to the hearers.

Speak to help, not to hurt.

[1 Cor. 13:5; Rom. 12:17-21]

Be willing to listen to others.

James 1:19 – Be swift to hear, slow to speak, slow to wrath. Angry people usually want to tell others off and give them “a piece of their mind.” They talk, talk, talk, but never really listen. This is not fair, not good for others, and does not solve the problem. We must be willing to listen.

Matthew 7:3-5 – Why behold the speck in your brother’s eye, when you have a plank in your own eye? In speaking with others, we must consider the evidence that maybe we have been wrong as much or more than they have. Consider their evidence.

G. Apologize to Those You Have Hurt.

Matthew 5:23,24 – In order for God to accept our worship, we must seek reconciliation with our brethren.

Luke 17:3,4 – If discussion demonstrates we have been wrong, we must say, “I repent.” Apologize. “I was wrong. I am sorry. Please forgive me.”

If everyone who needs to do this would do it today, many families would be reconciled, many church members would be reconciled, many friends and neighbors would be reconciled.

Some church members have wronged God and the whole church in ways that are openly known. They need to publicly express their repentance to the whole church.

Conclusion

As with all sins, God does not just tell us what to quit. He also tells us what to do to correct our problem. Anger is often a deep-seated habit, but anyone can overcome it by diligent application of God’s pattern.

Have you done what you should to be forgiven of your sins? Is there someone you have harmed in anger? Are there sins against others you need to make right? Are there known errors that you need to make right before the whole church? If so, do it today.

THE ARTICLES ABOVE, CONTROLLING YOUR ANGER GOD’S WAY: PART I, II, III, WERE ACQUIRED FROM THE LIBRARY OF “THE GOSPEL WAY” WEBSITE: COPYRIGHT 1980, 2000, 2009, WRITTEN BY:  DAVID E PRATTE. { Isaiah 64: 8 } But now, O Lord, thou art our father; we are the clay and thou art our potter; and we all are the work of thy hand.} Posted By:  Edith L Tunsil,  3/ 8/ 2014.